As someone who has also lost a child, I want to reach out to you with all the compassion and understanding my heart can offer. I long to embrace you, to reassure you—if only for a moment—that you are not alone in this unimaginable pain. The world changes forever when you lose your child. That last hug as they left for camp was given without any sense it would be final. They set out, eager for friendship and new adventures, never realizing they wouldn’t return. It’s brutally unfair, and no explanation can make sense of it.
In the quiet where laughter once filled your home, you now face an ache that seeps into every part of the day. Memories come in vivid waves—sometimes so sharp they steal your breath, other times bringing a bittersweet warmth. There are no words that can truly ease the magnitude of your loss, no gesture that can fill the empty space. Yet, even in the darkest hours, please know that love endures. It surrounds you, quietly and steadfastly, as you navigate these uncertain days.
When I look back on the early days after losing my son, I remember how overwhelming the pain was—how it seemed impossible to breathe or to move forward. The anger at the injustice, at the world, at fate itself, was a constant companion. Allow yourself to feel these emotions, even those you can’t name. Each feeling is valid and part of the journey through grief.
Though it may not seem possible now, there will be days when small joys return—a smile at a cherished memory, a fleeting moment of peace. These are gifts to be cherished, gentle reminders that your love endures, and your child’s spirit lives on in the life you carry forward. Allow yourself grace on the days when you can’t rise, and tenderness on the days when you do. Grief does not follow a straight path; sometimes it is fierce, sometimes tender. You are not expected to overcome the pain, but to carry your love bravely, one moment at a time, trusting that hope will quietly find its way back to you. And above all remember you are not alone. Reach out to a community that will support you and help you honor your child.
As you walk this path, may you be wrapped in warmth and understanding, uplifted by those who walk beside you in spirit and in presence. Let the love you shared continue to illuminate your days, and may you find, amid the sorrow, threads of solace woven from memory and connection. Your child's light remains forever part of you—no distance or time can diminish it. Hold tight to that love, and know that gentle hope will return, as certain as the dawn. I am holding you in my thoughts, always.
Love and hugs
Lynn – Living With Child Loss
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